Just want a boy friend

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I just want a boy friend, is that to much to ask?
I am 48 years old single and never married. I have always been attracted to men since I can remember. I have always known I was a woman in the wrong body, but due to fear I was stuck in this male form. But four years ago I said f**k you to those who made me fear the real me. Because of my late start, which could have happened when I was eighteen, I fight the strong male features and the scars of my hatred for my male body.
I do not always pass in looks but I am female inside, with adjustments being made.
Would you tell me why we as ts have to look like the ts or -------- of the ---- or model circuit?
Are there men out there who want a girl friend who will love them for being themselves and nothing more? I have found a few but they live so far from me that I only get to talk to them. I just want to be a girl friend to some man who is handsome inside and by the way he expresses himself.
Is this too much to ask for?

Biirtha Zelensky

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I feel for you. I know it must be tough. I think for ALL women around your age it can be hard to find a guy, then when you add in the TS issue it will obviously make it even harder.

Sometimes I find myself worried that I might end up in the same situation... but then I just remember that even if I ended up without a guy forever, I can still enjoy life just fine.

Friends and good times are what you need. Keep searching online being honest and up-front... go out to TS bars, and maybe one day your guy will come along. Just don't put your idea of a happy life as dependent on him.

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`That sounded like a Dear Abby reply

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`What if the only TS bars are hundreds of miles away?

[stevopants]

`Some of my transgirl friends decided to start going to a regular "Straight" bar on a regular basis that they knew wasn't going to be a big deal, and they became accepted pretty quickly, actually. Once the other regulars got to know them and stuff, they did alright!
They went in a group of about 5 or 6 for a while until they started knowing people by names, and then they'd just go whenever, and yeah, everything was fine.
Not every place is that open, but as a rule once people can sit down and talk face to face our humanity comes out. Who knows, right? Just be careful and smart and don't overrun the place.

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sweethotfairhvn wrote: `What if the only TS bars are hundreds of miles away?



Then move somewhere a bit more acclimated to diversity. Not just for the bars... but for a whole new everything.

[danceofblades]

`Yeah I total know the feeling, it's so hard finding a man to love

[rhetoryk]

`If you all only knew how many men are out here wishing we could befriend/date/love a t.s; you would see what a total "comedy of errors" it really is. You want a man, but fear to approach one. We want you, but don't know how to go about it. Then toss into the mix the t.s. girls that want to turn a potential relationship into a business deal and it does create quite a mess. I can relate that my personal experiences have left me disappointed as a kid with a broke kite. But I'm still hopefull.